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things not to do, even when horsing around
Sep. 4th, 2005 10:15 am
i'm mildly irritated at a coworker of mine today. a friend of mine J, and i were teasing M while we sat across from him in a booth at lunch. (the seating arrangment has direct bearing on what happened.) J was sitting next to the wall, and i was sitting on the outside. at one point, while M's back was turned, J 'stole' his book and hid it. joke, joke, joke, tease, tease, tease. J makes a comment to cause M to realize his book is gone. give it back, take it. so M gets up and is standing over me. 'move.' of course not, i'm 'gaurding' J. and the prize. so M decides to *yank* my hair. this isn't a gentle tug sort of thing. this was a neck wrenching, hurting yank sort of thing. the sort of yank you'd only give in a good catfight. so i tried to punch him. i'm glad he stopped at that, because that sort of action is the quickest way to get me out of 'horsing around' mood into 'i'm gonna beat your head in with a brick' mood.
i'm only mildly irritated because the context was horseplay, but honestly, don't people realize that hurting others isn't 'horseplay', but rather an aggressive act? that there's a difference between how much intensity is acceptable when playing vs a real fight or sex? sheesh.
and when i mentioned that the hair-pulling thing was a hard limit for me - as in, don't ever do it again, because it'll punch panic/ defense buttons - he said that he'd never had a girl react that way before. and he'd never had a girl punch him as opposed to kick him before. well, duh, i was sitting down! hard to kick sideways from a seated position. i don't think he's as experienced as he thinks he is.
other stupid co-worker tricks: J is training to be a volunteer firefighter, and the other day, C made a comment to the effect that J didn't need to go to the firehouse, because she (J) wasn't a *real* firefighter. C tends to cop an attitude at the best of times, but i gather this was snottier than usual. i have to wonder to myself sometimes just when or if some of these people learned any rules of politeness. surely, i'm not the only one who had 'respect for others until *they* downgrade themselves' drilled into her head?
makes me pissy on J's behalf. esp since i'm worrying about her in advance, every time i see/hear/read shit about NO.
-bs, muttering
i'm only mildly irritated because the context was horseplay, but honestly, don't people realize that hurting others isn't 'horseplay', but rather an aggressive act? that there's a difference between how much intensity is acceptable when playing vs a real fight or sex? sheesh.
and when i mentioned that the hair-pulling thing was a hard limit for me - as in, don't ever do it again, because it'll punch panic/ defense buttons - he said that he'd never had a girl react that way before. and he'd never had a girl punch him as opposed to kick him before. well, duh, i was sitting down! hard to kick sideways from a seated position. i don't think he's as experienced as he thinks he is.
other stupid co-worker tricks: J is training to be a volunteer firefighter, and the other day, C made a comment to the effect that J didn't need to go to the firehouse, because she (J) wasn't a *real* firefighter. C tends to cop an attitude at the best of times, but i gather this was snottier than usual. i have to wonder to myself sometimes just when or if some of these people learned any rules of politeness. surely, i'm not the only one who had 'respect for others until *they* downgrade themselves' drilled into her head?
makes me pissy on J's behalf. esp since i'm worrying about her in advance, every time i see/hear/read shit about NO.
-bs, muttering
