I'm not sorry for triggering you. You own that - it's all you, hon! I am, however, sorry that your issues prevent you from discussing this, or from trying to understand it from a guy's perspective. And I'm sad that a discussion like this would publicly mess you up that much.

Here's a positive thought on all this. Many/most of those nice guys you know? They've conquered their inner demons, and chose not to let them out, ever. They've _made that choice_, and some do every day. Strong, good people, those.